I was 19 (just a year younger than Ross is right now) and had just moved Ross and I into an apartment in Klamath Falls, Oregon so I could start my freshman year of college at OIT.
I had a hand-me-down couch, a few dishes, a tiny television set and a few decorations I had picked up from the dollar store. (And my Aunt had just given me that crib you see in the background because I only had a playpen.)
I was receiving food stamps, WIC (free cheese & milk), Pell Grants and Student Loans.
And I didn't have the self-esteem to know that I could make it through college as a single-mom.
But I had him (Ross) and somehow, he felt like my little 'incentive plan'.
I did lots of things wrong (like assuming that cherry vanilla custard was just as healthy as strained peas simply because it had the Gerber logo on it) but I did lots of things right too (like loving on him endlessly.)
What I regret most though is that I kind of wished his childhood away.
I just kept hoping that he'd get to the 'next stage' more quickly - thinking that the next stage would be easier.
Wishing I didn't have to be up, patting his back so many times through the night and falling asleep in class the next day as a result. Wishing he'd learn how to feed himself so I could get a few minutes to wash the dishes. Wishing he'd learn to entertain himself more so I could study without all the interruptions.
And I have a lot of regret in that.
Ross and I were lucky to have my family's support though.
My mom who would take him during finals week every term. My sister and our college buddy, Dawn who would take him to class when I didn't have a babysitter and couldn't take him to class with me. (My sister started at OIT the term after me.) My dad who who slipped me a $20 bill anytime I stopped by his work. My Aunt & Uncle who watched him when I had evening classes. And my Grandma who was thrilled to have him a couple of times a month when I wanted to go out and whoop it up like a regular, college student.
I never felt like a regular college student though.
I felt like a kid with a kid.
I felt embarrassed to be a 19 year old, single-mom.
I felt like a walking, social-stigma.
But he was my incentive plan when I wanted to give up. He was there to snuggle with when I was lonely. He made me smile when I was in tears. He gave me a reason to feel proud instead of ashamed.
And he was there with a Sunny Delight in one hand and his little Fisher Price camera in the other, taking pictures of me through the chain link fence the day I graduated.
And in a way, I have him to thank for making it through college.
He was my incentive plan.
I've never known what it feels like to be an adult without him.
And quite honestly, I'm kind of scared to find out what it feels like.
He's planning on going to OIT in the fall (the same college I went to) and we've been doing lots of things to get him ready.
I talked him into writing down some long-term and short-term goals and what steps he's going to take to achieve them.
Josh made him take a 'developing proper study habits for college' class online.
When I bought new pots & pans last year, I left a box full of our old pots & pans in his bedroom. When he realized what they were for, he looked at me pathetically and said, "I can't believe your making plans for me to move out already."
And we've come up with a written agreement for the percentage of tuition we're willing to pay based on his GPA each term which is something he and I have talked about since he was little. (He has to get a job to pay for his living expenses though.)
And he asked if I'd take him to Klamath Falls to help him check out apartments soon.
I don't think either one of us feel 100% ready though.
Ross is (respectfully) trying to exert his independence and some days, it's enough to make me want him to go exert his independence in his own house.
And I am (respectfully) insisting that he continue abiding by my rules so long as he is in my home and some days, I think that's enough to make him want to have his own house where my rules do not exist.
The other day, he sad, "Mom, you've been teaching me this stuff my whole life, now you need to trust me enough to let me do it."
And he's right (although I'd like to think I still have plenty of valuable, life lessons to impart.)
I feel relieved that we've maintained as good of a relationship as we have these last few years though.
He hugs me in front of his friends. He tells me I'm beautiful. He texts me funny things we used to say when he was little. He respects me. He closes his mouth when he feels like he is about to disrespect me. And he says that when he has kids one day, he's going to raise them just like I raised him.
And that feels like a huge pat on the back (even though I hope he doesn't raise his kids exactly the way I raised him.)
And anytime we're struggling, I just say, "Ross, hang in there with me for just a few more months. Trust me enough to do it my way for just a little longer. Help me keep this relationship intact."
And he does.
And I'm thankful for that.
And I respect him for that.
I love you Ross.Thanks for always being my incentive plan.
(And now I'm off to blow-dry my hair so I can take my 18 year old son out for his birthday dinner.)
Karen- your honesty and heartfelt words on the screen are so inspiring. YOU are a fantastic mom and I admire what you did as a single college mom! YOUR photography documents all those special times that you wished away --but actually- they are right there on the page! GREAT JOB!
Posted by: colette | April 13, 2010 at 07:36 AM
Simply beautiful Karen-I have tears in my eyes. Thank you for sharing your story and Happy Birthday Ross!
Posted by: Angie | April 13, 2010 at 07:41 AM
i am blown away, Karen. you just wowed me. just from reading your blog... i really like you, Ross and your family.
Posted by: Lovely Cee. | April 13, 2010 at 07:42 AM
You got me on this one Karen! The tears were flowing! Such a beautiful and heartfelt post! You've done good with him. It's clear. You have a beautiful family :)
Posted by: Mary | April 13, 2010 at 07:45 AM
this made me full out bawl.
I was a single mom with my first for a while.. and we are struggling with him now..trying to get him to do be more respectful, to do his best etc and I feel like we are failing miserably.. I am so afraid of what is going to happen with him.
Its so hard being a parent isn't it..
But you have done great.. I admire everything I read about you on here..
Posted by: Shauna M | April 13, 2010 at 07:46 AM
You have raised a very well ground kid! I don't think you have much to worry about!
Posted by: Kelli | April 13, 2010 at 08:03 AM
This is beautiful Karen. I actually teared up reading this. You sound like such a great mom.
Posted by: Melanie C. | April 13, 2010 at 08:04 AM
Wow! Another reason why we love you! :) Happy Birthday, Ross! Hope your 'birthday date' night was awesome.
Posted by: Julie McD | April 13, 2010 at 08:07 AM
Oh my god, Karen! I can barely type this, my eyes are all blurry from tears. This is the most emotional post I,ve read I think!
You both are incentives to each other, and its beautiful.
Ross is one great kid, I mean, young adult. Happy Birthday, Ross!
Posted by: Jennifer S | April 13, 2010 at 08:11 AM
oh Karen, I really wish I could know you "for reals", not just through mutual friends and blogs..your stories stick to my heart, as I am a mom of boys and although they are only 11 & 14, I know that what you are going through right now is where I will be in a blink of an eye...Happy Birthday Ross...give that wonderful mom of yours a huge hug!!!!
Posted by: stephanie | April 13, 2010 at 08:26 AM
As a fellow mom, your post made me tear up. Very heartfelt, definitely sweet and sounds like to me that you did a great job!
Posted by: Adrian | April 13, 2010 at 08:41 AM
OK...now that you have made me cry. For you I have to say Bravo for saying what you mean & your son being the man that he has become, because of you & your beliefs & your many sacrifices. To your son....you are so lucky to have a Mom & family that care so much about you & believe in you. Always believe in yourself & what your heart & mind tell you is right. If it feels wrong....guess what it probably is. Best of luck to you Ross & make sure you call, text or write your Mom!!!!! Thanks Karen for being you!! Kathy
Posted by: Kathy Jiran | April 13, 2010 at 09:23 AM
That was beautiful and then some.
Posted by: Andre Meerten | April 13, 2010 at 09:25 AM
Well said Karen. Good timing for me, someone who is also wishing away the days for a time that will be "easier". I hope my kids will think the same of me as yours so obviously do of you. Thanks for this post today.
(And boy, do you ever look like Annie in that photo!)
Posted by: LeeAnna Carson | April 13, 2010 at 09:47 AM
Oh Lord. . .you've got me in tears! You are such a good Mama. -And as so many have already said, you are so lucky to have one another.
Posted by: Lisa Westphal | April 13, 2010 at 09:59 AM
Go Karen!! Go Ross!! Life is good when the things that make our hearts happy are greater than the things that make our hearts sad.
Posted by: gina f. | April 13, 2010 at 10:02 AM
That just made me cry. That is a special story. Happy Birthday Ross!
Posted by: Cara | April 13, 2010 at 10:16 AM
So sweet. Sniff. Sniff. I'm glad you and Ross have a wonderful relationship with each other and best of luck when he does move out.
Posted by: Huyen | April 13, 2010 at 10:19 AM
I love that you posted this. I too was a young Mom, getting pregnant and married at 16. I swore up and down that I would not be a statistic. I wasn't just 'another teen pregnancy'. I was a person having a baby. A baby I loved from the moment I knew. Even though I was scared to death. lol My story is very different but my point is this: We did it. We are still doing it and we rock.
They will always be your babies, no matter their ages. ;)
Posted by: Sierra | April 13, 2010 at 10:28 AM
As a teenage mom myself...KUDOS to you and the wonderful job you did in raising him. This post really made me cry!!!
Posted by: cindy b. | April 13, 2010 at 10:38 AM
ps. I WAS a teenage mom..I"m not a teenager now..LOL!!
Posted by: cindy b. | April 13, 2010 at 10:39 AM
OK, you have to issue a tissue warning at the beginning of these kinds of posts. You've got me sobbing at my desk on my lunch hour. God Bless You and Ross! What a lovely portrait of the mother and son relationship and your love for each other.
Posted by: Sarah K | April 13, 2010 at 10:43 AM
Wow! I hope I can raise my 2 small children as well as you appear to have raised Ross! Respect is huge and so is hugging his mum in front of his friends. You're a very lucky mom and he's a very lucky son!!
Posted by: Jacqui | April 13, 2010 at 11:48 AM
I have a huge lump in my throat, tears threatening to run, and immense respect for your decision to live life on purpose. Ross is lucky to have you ... and you are lucky to have him!
Posted by: tammy | April 13, 2010 at 12:18 PM
Sniff, sniff.... that was beautifully written Karen! My son left home to go to school last September and I'm excited to see him come home in a couple of weeks. But I know that the little kid that left me last September will be coming back, well, a little less kid-like. And that is what we wish for our kids... that they are able to make their own way in the world... just like you did. congratulations on your successful "incentive plan"!
Posted by: Wendy M. | April 13, 2010 at 12:23 PM
Beautiful, amazing - I struggle with two boys and I'm 41 and have my husband so hats off to you - you did a good job! I can't imagine the emotions you will have when it's time for him to go it alone.
Posted by: Katherine | April 13, 2010 at 12:42 PM
lovely post...thank you for sharing these" snapshots of a good life" with us..god bless!!
Posted by: Deepaalex | April 13, 2010 at 12:42 PM
wow...tears...so beautiful. you're amazing. both of you! :)
Posted by: Tanya | April 13, 2010 at 01:45 PM
What a fantastic post - you are an inspiration!
Posted by: jack | April 13, 2010 at 01:46 PM
Karen,
Even though my son is only two and a half, I totally understand your guilt on wishing away his childness or in my case "Infantness". I couldnt wait for him to walk, talk and now I can barely remember him at 2 weeks, 2 months. That guilt is so intense but now I just have to appreciate the now and live for today!! Beautiful post! you should print it out and give it to him or at least put it away for him!!
Posted by: Karidan Chapman | April 13, 2010 at 01:46 PM
Oh Karen ,I don' cry much but thanks for this post.I have a 12 year old son who is struggling in school/life and I am constantly on him and with your post it just gave me the incentive to keep pushing him and just love on him.THANK YOU for the incentive for my son and I.
Posted by: Sherrie taylor | April 13, 2010 at 01:51 PM
i read your blog religiously, but rarely comment. this post made me smile!
Posted by: Krista Lund | April 13, 2010 at 02:50 PM
You made me cry! Happy Birthay Ross!
Awesome Job Karen!
Posted by: JaYne | April 13, 2010 at 03:04 PM
Best post ever! I'm in tears reading it. Happy Birthday Ross!
Posted by: Kim | April 13, 2010 at 03:11 PM
Ok you made me get all teary-eyed with that one. Thanks for sharing; that was beautifully written. What a great kid! What a great mom.
Posted by: Beth B. | April 13, 2010 at 04:02 PM
I copied this and sent it to my daughter, who is 29. Her son is 12. She finished high school, and graduated from college, in four years, with a BSN. Her relationship with her son is much like the one you have with Ross. Like all your other commenters, I am teary eyed. I wish I could give you and my daughter, and your boys, a hug. Happy Birthday to Ross!
Posted by: Deb Zorn | April 13, 2010 at 04:52 PM
So beautiful. I am teary-eyed. Thanks
Posted by: Irene | April 13, 2010 at 05:10 PM
Heavens...you've made me cry. What a wonderful post and a beautiful tribute to the child you raised (and who helped raise you too I think). You are both so lucky.
Posted by: MichelleG | April 13, 2010 at 06:02 PM
Your story touches me as I think about my own sixteen year old son. Blessings to you and your family, Karen. Thank you for sharing your heart with all of us.
Posted by: Jenny B | April 13, 2010 at 06:12 PM
my mother {who had my older brother when she was 17} has always said that you are only given challenges that you were born to conquer. cheers to you!
xo
Posted by: kl | April 13, 2010 at 06:33 PM
I loved this post, especially since I have a five-week-old (my first) and I'm struggling with the all-nighters and hard times. Thanks for the reminder to not wish them away. I don't know how you did it as a single mom. I think you're amazing!
Posted by: Ashley S. | April 13, 2010 at 06:35 PM
Thanks for sharing this part of your private thoughts and life. I am touched.
Posted by: Kirsten | April 13, 2010 at 06:49 PM
Nellie, that was the best...sniff...sniff :*) you're the best...sniff...sniff
Posted by: kat-in-texas | April 13, 2010 at 07:27 PM
Happy Birthday, Ross! And Congratulations, Mom on a JOB WELL DONE! (It is, however, a never-ending job!). Be thankful that you will be so close in proximity (and in his heart!).
Please know that single moms can do just as good of a job as a two parents. Sometimes, I think they just try even harder to make up for the absent parent. There are also two parent families who are doing an awful job raising their kids. Feel proud that you did the best you could with what you had!
When my son moved across the country to go to his dream school (and because his rotten parents forced him to stay in the same school district his whole life!)- I talked/text with him more than when he was home. I got random calls about how to choose an onion and where to find tomato juice in the grocery store. We had prepared and he knew this info., but I think he just missed me! Enjoy him while he is there and spoil him when he visits! Thanks for always inspiring us!
Posted by: Kelly | April 13, 2010 at 07:44 PM
Just what I needed....tears! You've worked hard and it is now paying off. Happy Birthday Ross!
Posted by: Barbara Zea Jones | April 13, 2010 at 08:32 PM
I am cracking up right now because I am almost positive I had that EXACT same turtle-tank and shorts. In fact, I had the oh-so-cool-turle-tank in several other colors too! :) Thanks for the trip down memory lane!
I absolutely loved this post Karen. You are so honest - it is refreshing. And I just love hearing about the evolution of your darling family.
Posted by: Megan | April 13, 2010 at 08:46 PM
What a lovely testament to you both!
Posted by: Terri Barton | April 13, 2010 at 09:28 PM
Thank you for posting this! It is so inspiring! I have 3 little incentive plans of my own:)
Posted by: Marjorie | April 13, 2010 at 10:23 PM
Oh...and Happy Birthday to your son!
Posted by: Marjorie | April 13, 2010 at 10:25 PM
I love this entry of yours! Thank you for sharing.
Posted by: Susan Dingess | April 14, 2010 at 06:07 AM
Great post...thank you for always being true to who you are and who you were as a young mom. If more people were honest with themselves and others this world would be a better place. Thank you for sharing!! And most of all thank you for choosing life!! Again...happy birthday Ross...you have one awesome mom!
Posted by: Tracy | April 14, 2010 at 06:27 AM
I teared up too! AWESOME Post!!! I do have to say that Annie sure does look A LOT like you in the picture above....I couldn't believe it! Hear Erin Cobb is coming over to OR....can't wait to hear about it!!! Hope all is well!!!
xoxo
Staci
Posted by: staci | April 14, 2010 at 06:48 AM
So, I came out here to read the rest of your post (the first time, I couldn't get through because of the tears). Still cried, but your writing is so beautiful. What a wonderful love we have with our oldest children (especially when we had them so young)Thank you for contining to share your stories.
Posted by: Lynne | April 14, 2010 at 09:03 AM
A great post, Karen! Love that you have the self-confidence now (even if you didn't back then) to let your real emotions shine. We love that about you. Ross has a great mom! :o)
Posted by: Corie in Indy | April 14, 2010 at 09:16 AM
That was beautiful! Sounds like you've raised a wonderful and respectful man. There aren't enough of them out there anymore! And you're a wonderful mother filled with so much love. Good luck to both you and Ross in the fall. Happy Birthday, Ross!!!
Posted by: Heather | April 14, 2010 at 09:16 AM
Thank you for being so candid. What a pleasure it is to read your blog. :)
Posted by: Melanie | April 14, 2010 at 09:35 AM
This post just brought me to tears. Now I need to go find a tissue! Beautiful relationship! Just beautiful!
Posted by: Carla | April 14, 2010 at 12:25 PM
Oh WOW! What a blessing! :)
Posted by: Gena - MI | April 14, 2010 at 04:41 PM
Karen - I could go on and on talking about your post and how emotional it made me. All I can say is you should be darn proud of yourself. Not many women could have done what you did. Your love for your son and family shines. :-)
Posted by: Deanna | April 14, 2010 at 05:07 PM
What a wonderful post. What a wonderful son. What a wonderful mom.
Sounds like you did, and are still doing, an excellent job of being a mother.
Happy birthday Ross. Thank you for sharing Karen.
Posted by: Dick | April 14, 2010 at 05:39 PM
That is the most beautiful and touching love story I've ever read. WOW!
Posted by: Lucinda | April 14, 2010 at 07:14 PM
okay you have gone and done it now....I'm crying. My son 16 just told my husband and I that he has someone he wants to date. He is meeting with her parents to ask permission. The days do go by very fast!
Posted by: Juel | April 14, 2010 at 09:18 PM
ow man...that was the most touching story i've ever read. I'm tearing as i type this comment!
I'm so glad that you shared this with us.
and Karen, you've done really really well in raising him up! :)
Posted by: Felicia Lie | April 14, 2010 at 09:28 PM
*TEARS* That is beautiful! You are a wonderful Mom.
Posted by: Casey Moore | April 14, 2010 at 09:37 PM
I know exactly what you mean when you say "I never felt like a regular college student though. I felt like a kid with a kid. I felt embarrassed to be a 19 year old, single-mom. I felt like a walking, social-stigma. But he was my incentive plan when I wanted to give up."
My son was born in my freshman year of college & he was my incentive plan, too. He's 9 now & I hope that he turns out as well as Ross has & we have as good of a relationship as you two do even through the teen years. You've done a great job of raising him. From what I can tell (through blogland), he has his head screwed on straight (as people tend to say here in the South). In other words, he's a pretty good guy & you have a lot to be proud of.
Happy Birthday, Ross.
Posted by: Mindy M. | April 14, 2010 at 09:42 PM
This was your best post and I am honoured to have read it. Thank you for sharing. Your strength and lovely relationship with your son is inspiring. I was especially challenged to remember not to wish my young kids lives to move faster and enjoy the small things. From the bottom of my heart.. thank you.
Posted by: Heather | April 15, 2010 at 06:21 AM
Crying now. Seeing myself go through the same thing in another 16 or so years. Feeling guilty for thinking the same things about my two precious little baby boys (currently 28 mos. and 11 mos.)... and thus wishing their lives away. You're a wonderful mom and I hope to have the same kind of relationship with my boys when they get older. Thanks, Karen, for sharing that.
Posted by: Beth P. | April 15, 2010 at 07:34 AM
I have got to STOP reading your posts at work...I just BAWL!!! You are such an inspiration not onl;y to all us scrapbbok, photography moms but to all struggling single moms!! Thanks so much for sharing!
Posted by: catina | April 15, 2010 at 09:43 AM
Karen - it's pretty obvious you are an amazing mom the way your kids adore you.
Your post reminds me of myself when I was young and it was just my son and I for a long time.
Love it... thanks for sharing your great thoughts.
Posted by: Dawn | April 15, 2010 at 10:00 AM
A very beautiful tribute!
Posted by: Tracy Eau Claire | April 15, 2010 at 10:08 AM
It is amazing the amount of memories that are flooding me as I read this and the amount of tissues I had to get through it. I know your a wonderful mother. I'm so happy to have seen you on your journey. You raised my nephew to be a great man. You deserve a huge hug. I hope you know how greatful I am for you and for all you've done to provide for him.
I love you both with all my heart.
Posted by: Cheyla Breedlove-Miller | April 15, 2010 at 05:53 PM
and I am trying to read this thru tears...
Don't you hate it when your kids grow up...
My oldest is going to be 30 in June and yet I don't feel a day over 30 myself....
My youngest graduated last June and is going to college in Ashland and just got his first real job.....
And here I am just turned 52 wondering what do I want to be when I grow up...
Thank you for sharing you life...
Laura
So OR
Posted by: laura | April 17, 2010 at 04:57 AM
You already have 172 comments about this post (holy crap!) but I just HAD TO comment. I'm in the middle of the teenage years with my son and it's hard. He used to think the sun rose and set on me and now he thinks I'm embarrassing. I know this is normal. I know that it that's the only thing I have to worry about then I'm pretty damn lucky. I hope he feels about me the way your son feels about you.
I'm back to school right now (grad school) and my 2 kids are MY incentive plan to finish and be ready for them to go to college. I'm trying hard not to wish this time away for myself so I can get working because I know that'll just mean 2 years I didn't take the time to watch them grow as carefully as I should.
Thanks for the beautiful post.
Posted by: Jen | April 17, 2010 at 05:25 AM
Tears rolling down my face...
Posted by: Beth | April 17, 2010 at 09:43 AM
I'm trying to fight back the tears but they are flowing. I was a young mom going through college too. I did the same thing as you as far as wishing my son's childhood away. This one hit so close to home. Thanks for sharing.
Posted by: Sheila McClymonds | April 17, 2010 at 04:38 PM
I have followed your blog for some time now...and I just love the way you capture life in all it's beauty.
I love this post. I am still hormonal...just had a boy ON APRIL 12th!!
So of course I cried at your story, your struggle and your beautiful relationship!
Thanks for sharing with blog land!
Posted by: veronica | April 17, 2010 at 06:02 PM
I don't know you at all. I found your blog completely by accident way past my bedtime- and though we will probably never meet, and though i won't sign up for your workshop because i am saving my pennies, annnnd though i am one of a huge crowd, i have to say: that this blog entry means the world to me. it means more than the world. it means that i, a young mom with a camera in her hand and her heart on her sleeve, am not alone. it means that even though i don't have a rich grandmother to pay for me to start this business (www.michellegardella.com) and even though i am hopelessly human, maybe i am beautiful- just like you.
thank you for listening to that part of yourself that tells you to take pictures. thank you for being honest and real and fabulous.
Posted by: michelle gardella | April 19, 2010 at 10:22 PM
Wow Ross is one lucky boy/man! Happy Birthday Ross. Thanks for sharing your feelings and thoughts. Gonna go wipe my tears and go hug my 17 year old girl.
Posted by: Suezi gurzi | April 20, 2010 at 09:46 AM
this "message" to ross would make wonderful journaling in a graduation mini-album of the journey the two of you have taken. i know the special bond between single moms and their sons...i have one too. a totally get this. now, i am off to find a box of tissues. hope you are having fun with your fellow photographer friend...
Posted by: denise | April 22, 2010 at 01:14 PM
Wow! Like so many others I'm sitting here bawling my eyes out. You amaze me. So many young girls in your situation have just given up. They use their child as an excuse to not try and do anything with their lives. Granted, many of them don't have the suppost system that you did but even with it I'm sure it was unimaginably hard. I'm so very glad you didn't give in to the temptation to give up. You are a true inspiration. All four of your children (yes I said four) are so very blessed to have you for a mother.
Posted by: Kay Drenth | April 23, 2010 at 12:42 PM
Wow! Made me cry,
So Beautiful Karen!
Posted by: tamara | April 24, 2010 at 06:05 AM
oh Karen, this has just brought me to tears! YOu are an amazing person, and have an amazing family, xx
Posted by: anna bowkis | April 24, 2010 at 11:21 AM
Wow! I don't know how that makes me feel. Gloriously happy that you have such a relationship, curious how you did it, and even more I feel as if I can never achieve that with my own children.
I'm sure he screamed and yelled at you as a child, all kids do, but how did you retain an attitude of respect for yourself?! My mom never had that (respect for self) and I've found that I struggle with knowing how to maintain that with my own children. I find them blatantly ignoring what I ask them to do and sometimes (alot of times) I wonder if that is just a child thing to do or if it is a worse problem that I need to address.
Your post makes me think that you had the answer! I'm jealous and curious
Posted by: cannwin | April 25, 2010 at 08:49 AM
Congratulations! You have done your job well. Personally, I think the job description for motherhood sucks - help your child become independent of you. Then again, 19 isn't as cute as 5.
Posted by: kimberly | April 26, 2010 at 10:03 PM
that was just plain beautiful.
Posted by: G | April 29, 2010 at 10:04 PM
A beautifully written post. I identify with this thoroughly. I have an 18 year son in college at the same university I went to. He's even in the same major I was in. I was 19 when he was born. I was lucky enough to not be a single mom, but I never felt like a college kid. I, too, felt like a kid with a kid. He grounded me and because of him, I made it through school and graduated. He was my incentive plan....no intent to plagiarize, just to 100% agree with your words. You put it better than I ever could have.
Posted by: Sherri | May 01, 2010 at 05:31 PM
was looking through your photography tips and was reading some of your posts at random. was fighting back some tears reading this one. I wish to have a wonderful relationship with my own when they have grown, just like you.
Posted by: Ida J | June 27, 2010 at 10:25 PM