Last week looked something like this:
On Monday night I spent the evening with Cole and Courtney. We grabbed coffee, listened to a great podcast from Andy Stanley and went out for Mexican food. They haven't been getting along very well so once we sat down, I said, "I want you guys to think for a few minutes about the things you like about one another and then I want you to share them." Cole sunk down in his chair, sighed loudly and said, "It's going to take a long time for me to think of something I like about her." Courtney perked up in her chair, looked Cole directly in the eyes and and immediately said, "I love it when you stick up for me at school when someone is picking on me - it makes me feel really good." Upon hearing that, Coley sat up in his chair with a slightly embarrassed smile on his face and said, "I love that anytime I'm bored, you can always think of something really fun and creative for us to do." And much to my surprise, they continued on, just like that, for the rest of dinner.
On Tuesday night, I went to Bible Study and Josh stayed home with the kids.
On Wednesday, Josh came home from work to find me cooking spaghetti, all in a tizzy over some Ross-related stuff. 30 minutes later, we were in a quiet argument over the same Ross-related stuff so I left him to finish cooking dinner on his own and headed to my mom's house to talk to her about the same Ross-related stuff. Then I waited in the parking lot of Ross's work until his shift got over at 8:00 p.m. so he and I could hash out all the Ross-related stuff.
On Thursday, Courtney Lee stayed home with me because she had woken up in the middle of the night puking. She was fine by morning but I kept her home with me anyhow and in between work, she and I had a really great talk. That evening, we took the kids to dinner and dropped Courtney off at her Grandma Jo's (because they were heading out of town together for the weekend.) That evening, Josh and I sat on the couch and took the time to work through all the Ross-related stuff we had argued about the night before. Unfortunately, we tried to tackle another hard topic after that (since we had so successfully dealt with the first one) but that one didn't end as well.
On Friday, my mom asked if she could take Cole and Annie for the night. Withing minutes of discovering we were going to be kid-less for the evening, I called Josh Downs to see if he wanted to go to dinner. A few hours later, he emailed, saying that I needed to pack an overnight bag and by 5:00 p.m., we were on the road, driving just 15 miles away from home to have dinner and stay the night in Ashland (at the Columbia Hotel which is an adorable, old hotel where you can get a cheap, clean room if you're willing to forgo your own restroom.) We ended up all over the place, eating appetizers and having drinks at various restaurants and bars, having long conversations with store owners, bartenders and hotel managers/aspiring artists. Mostly though, we just talked to each other; small-talk, deep conversations and everything in between.
I wish I could say it was an abnormal week but it wasn't. Josh and I disagreed more than we normally do but quite honestly, our everyday lives are typically filled with ups & downs just like this.
The problem with 'everyday life' though is that it can quietly unravel relationships until they bare little resemblance to what they once were, giving little hope for what they could be in the future.
And I just happen to think that insurance is the only thing that prevents that insidious unraveling...
Monday night with Cole & Courtney=insurance.
Tuesday night studying God's word=insurance.
Wednesday night hashing out hard stuff with Ross=insurance.
Thursday talking with Courtney and Thursday night talking with Josh=insurance.
Friday night in Ashland with Josh=insurance + fun.