I think 'regular life' (schedules, bills, kids, stress) just kind of has a way of slowly working it's way in between a couple until they start to forget why they chose one another in the first place.
And unfortunately, Josh Downs and I are no exception.
I love him. I really love him. But we have our own fair share of issues and sometimes we let the outside stresses of life separate us rather than bring us together.
Josh always says, "It's you & me against the world baby."
But sometimes, I'm quite convinced it's me against him or perhaps, the other way around.
But anytime we get away by ourselves (even if it's only for a couple of hours to have dinner) we always end up on the same side again.
So, our goal is to go out to dinner by ourselves once or twice a month and to get out of town by ourselves (even if it's just for one night) every now and then too.
So last week, we had decided to head out of town for one night (Friday.) But when Friday rolled around, we still didn't know where we were going.
It wasn't until a few hours before we left that we finally decided where we were going (Portland for the whole weekend, thanks to Grandma Jo who offered to babysit.)
So Friday at about 4 p.m., we got in the truck and headed to Portland. (About a 4 1/2 hours.)
Fortunately (or unfortunately, depending upon how you want to look at it), I am a creature of habit. Once I find something I like, I stick with it. And fortunately (or unfortunately, depending upon how you want to look at it) Josh Downs could care less what we do so long as it makes me happy.
Quite fortunate for me, no matter how you look at it.
So we stopped in Eugene to eat at P.F. Changs (even though Josh doesn't like stopping in Eugene because of all the liberal Ducks) so I could have vegetable potsickers and green beans dipped in potsticker sauce.
And then we made our regular stop in Albany for coffee. (He loves stopping in Albany and/or Corvallis because of all the conservative Beavers.)
And once we were back on the road again, we called to see if they had any rooms available at the Embassy Suites in downtown Portland because it's old and beautiful and because it doesn't gross me out to use their pillows. (And because they make the worlds best spinach au'gratin right across the street at Ruth's Chris Steakhouse.)
We didn't make it to Portland until about 11 p.m. but had decided on the drive that we were going to go whoop it up at 80's night at the Crystal Ballroom when we got into town. (Josh was still an infant in the 80's so he doesn't really have an appreciation for the decade quite like I do.) Once we actually got to the hotel though, we somehow, non-verbally agreed to watch cable T.V. in bed instead. (We can listen to 80's music anytime, but we don't have cable television at home...)
And when we started discussing our plans for the next day, Josh said, "We should drive out to Columbia City in the morning."
And if were possible, I would have fallen even more in love with Josh Downs at that exact moment.
Back when I was a single-mom, I bought a lovely, little old house in Columbia City, Oregon with the world's largest magnolia tree in the front yard - and although Josh has heard me talk unendingly about Columbia City, he'd never actually been there.
And technically, it may not be the largest Magnolia tree in the whole-wide-world...but I'm sure it's close.
I could hardly fall asleep just thinking about it.
So the next morning, Josh left for free breakfast at the hotel (his favorite thing about staying at Embassy Suites) and I walked down the street to Starbucks (where you have to pay for your coffee.)

And then we headed to Columbia City (which is just three miles past St. Helens.)
We made a few stops along the way; the new house in Scappoose that I bought (and had to sell) after my ex-husband actually became my ex-husband.
The office where I used to work as a dental hygienist in St. Helens. (The best place I have ever worked.)
The scrapbook store where I taught my first scrapbooking class, though it's no longer in business. (If you're reading this Pat, thank you for always believing in me.)
The coffee stand where I used to get coffee, the bar where I sang karake for the first time, the old theater that Ross and I used to go to every Tuesday for $1 movie night, etc., etc., etc.
And then we got to Columbia City.
And drove past my old house (three times) with what is probably the worlds biggest Magnolia tree in the front yard. (That second story window in the front was Ross's old room, the dormer window was my scrapbook room and Coley's window was at the back of the house.)
And I missed it (and that tree that would draw crowds when it was blooming...ok, maybe not crowds, but once, I looked out my window and saw three people looking at it simultaneously.)
And then we went down to Pixie Park where I used to take the boys to skip rocks almost nine years ago.

And it just kind of hit me that I had stood in that very same spot, more than once, watching the boys skip rocks, hoping for the man of my dreams. (I apologize if you just chocked on the cheese.)

And then we headed back to Portland and walked to have lunch at Kell's Irish Pub.
And then we walked back to the hotel.
And Mapquested directions to Sellwood. (Antique Stores!)
And then we headed to Sellwood. (Antique Stores!)
And though it may look like he's interested in whatever he's looking at...Josh Downs had absolutely zero interest in antique stores. (Antique Stores!)
I had that very same Fisher Price House (and the matching Fisher Price barn) when I was a kid.
And I'm quite sure that if it were the 50's and if I baked...I would totally hang out in the kitchen all day baking cookies in that dress.
And when he had enough antique shopping (Antique stores!) he sat down outside at a close-by Mexican restaurant and ordered a beer.

And then we were unknowingly videotaped for an online Dodge commercial while shopping at another antique store.
I'm not even joking. (That lady standing next to me is an actress.)
Will save that story for another time though.
And then we headed back to the hotel, watched a movie, ordered take-out from Ruth's Chris Steakhouse (two orders of spinach au'gratin for me and shrimp and sweet potato casserole for Josh.)
He hates Ruth's Chris Steakhouse because of the prices. (And complained all night about paying $15 for five measly shrimp...because that's $3 per shrimp you know.)
I on the other hand, think two sides of spinach au'gratin are worth their weight in gold.
And then we walked to the 10 p.m. show at the comedy club where Josh ordered me (without my consent) some sort of Red Bull and Jagermeister concoction that went down about as easily as cough syrup.
And I'm not sure if it was the comedians or the cough syrup...but they were hilarious.
Headed home the next morning.
And it's me & Josh Downs against the world again.
Oh, and you know I'm not smart enough to embed a video here but if you want to hear a song that reminds me of how that little house in Columbia City helped me rebuild my life (after my divorce), here it is.